Brain & Nervous System Guide to Autism Living With Sex Education for Teens With Autism By Lisa Jo Rudy facebook twitter linkedin Lisa Jo Rudy, MDiv, is a writer, advocate, author, and consultant specializing in the field of autism. Learn about our editorial process Lisa Jo Rudy Fact checked by Fact checked by Ashley Hall on April 15, 2020 linkedin Ashley Hall is a writer and fact checker who has been published in multiple medical journals in the field of surgery. Learn about our editorial process Ashley Hall Updated on April 15, 2020 Print Sarah Jones/The Image Bank/Getty Images Very few programs exist to teach young people with autism about sex and sexuality, and because people with autism are often unaware of social cues and peer expectations, clear, direct education is often critical. Teaching About Staying Safe From Sexual Abuse Says Dr. Peter Gerhardt, an expert in adults with autism and the Director of the Organization for Autism Research, "Autistic children and teens need to know they should lock the bathroom stall, and they need to learn how to do it. Sometimes parents think it's safer if they take their child into the bathroom with them, but the challenge with that is that the person most likely to cause abuse is someone the child knows, not someone the child doesn't know. And if you don't teach your child to close and lock the door in a public bathroom, he's too open to abuse." Unlike most youngsters, teens on the autism spectrum are unlikely to learn about sexual norms from peers or even from teachers. So it's up to parents to pick up the slack. Some things that almost anyone on the autism spectrum can learn about include: Circles of comfort (who may touch you or ask you to undress)Good touch/bad touchBathroom and locker room independenceReporting of past events such an inappropriate touch For parents of young people with autism, there's a second level of difficulty: teaching even the most basic social aspects of sexuality. Even masturbation has a social component. Teens need to know when and where it's okay to touch themselves, and they need to understand the absolute need for privacy. Tips for Parents How can parents begin to think about this issue? Says Dr. Gerhardt, "for kids with autism going to middle school, if we're not pre-teaching, they'll get a very skewed vision of human sexuality. Right now, there's no curriculum that truly addresses the issues in a functional way, and there's little research on the topic. With sexuality, you're not just teaching information. You're also teaching values and social competence." Dr. Gerhardt recommends that parents: Think ahead — be proactive ("pre-teach")Be concrete (talk about the penis or vagina, not the birds and bees)Be consistent and repetitive about sexual safetyFind someone of the same gender to teach the basics of safety and hygieneBe sure to address the social dimension of sexualityStrongly reinforce for all appropriate behaviorRedirect inappropriate behaviors. For example, if a child is likely to masturbate in class or in public, give him something to carry or hold, etc. Was this page helpful? Thanks for your feedback! Sign up for our Health Tip of the Day newsletter, and receive daily tips that will help you live your healthiest life. Sign Up You're in! Thank you, {{form.email}}, for signing up. There was an error. Please try again. What are your concerns? Other Inaccurate Hard to Understand Submit