Safest Sex Positions for a Bad Back

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Odds are, sex with a bad back is not a fun experience! If you're wondering how you might mitigate this conundrum—position wise—the first thing to understand is the specific condition with which you're dealing. In other words, different back problems require positional solutions. In this article, I'll talk specifically about positioning yourself to minimize pain and symptoms related to disc problems.

The bottom line is back pain due to disc problems may be irritated when you bend forward (i.e., flex your spine) too much. Gratefully, ways to counter this during sex do exist. With discs, the idea is to favor the opposite spinal movement, which is an extension. You may be more familiar with extension as back arching.

Experiment with back arching to determine how much you need so that the pain doesn't show up as a third wheel in an otherwise intimate setting. Below are a few tips to help you do that.

With any sexual experience while you have back pain, staying relaxed is the key to success. Staying relaxed may also help relieve the muscles' contributions to your pain levels.

The Missionary Position

When you are in the missionary position on the bottom, you can support your low back by putting a rolled towel under it. This will likely keep a slight arch in your low back. By the way, maintaining that slight arch is generally recommended by physical therapists to help alleviate symptoms. Your partner can straddle you while in a kneeling position. You will be in a passive position. Straddling can also be done while sitting in a chair.

Sitting and Kneeling

You can also sit on your partner's lap. This will give you some control over your back's position. At first, you may need to explore to find the spinal positioning options that increase and decrease the pain while you're kneeling. After that, you'll have some options.

Another possibility is to kneel as you support your weight on your elbows. In this position, there is room for you to adjust your back to a place of comfort. Your partner can enter you from behind.

Stomach Lying

Lying on your stomach will automatically put your back in an arch. You can control the amount of arch from this position in several ways. To add more arch, start by placing a pillow under your chest. If that does not provide enough spinal extension, prop yourself up on your elbows. To decrease the amount of arch in your back, place the pillow under your stomach.

Find the right amount of arch for your back by trying these variations to identify for yourself which is the most comfortable. While lying on your stomach, your partner can enter from behind.

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