Borderline Personality Disorder and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder

BPD and ADHD: What You Should Know

Table of Contents
View All
Table of Contents

Borderline personality disorder, or BPD, and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, or ADHD, share overlapping symptoms, yet they are two different mental health conditions. BPD is a disorder that involves a longstanding pattern of mood instability, relationship struggles, and issues with self-image that interferes with life. ADHD is a condition that is present since childhood; it involves symptoms relating to excessive attention challenges, excessive hyperactivity, or both, which can also lead to impulsivity.

Despite their differences, both ADHD and BPD have symptoms of impulsiveness, difficulty regulating emotions, and challenges with interpersonal interactions and relationships. The overlap between the two conditions can sometimes make the diagnosis and treatment of them more challenging.

Learn more about the similarities and differences between BPD and ADHD and how the two conditions are treated.

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)

BPD and ADHD are two different mental health conditions with some unique symptoms. However, the ADHD and BPD relationship is somewhat complex. Some of their symptoms overlap, making the conditions more challenging to diagnose and treat. It is important to understand the symptoms of each condition individually to better understand their relationship.

BPD and ADHD Comparison

Verywell / Joules Garcia

Symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder

Symptoms of BPD include:

  • Mood swings
  • Abandonment avoidance
  • Extreme relationship pattern shifts between love and hate
  • Trust issues with other people
  • Feeling disconnected
  • Self-image or self-esteem uncertainty
  • Extreme views
  • Quickly changing views or opinions
  • Self-harm
  • Thoughts of suicide
  • Feeling empty
  • Anger management challenges

If you are having suicidal thoughts, dial 988 to contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline and connect with a trained counselor. If you or a loved one are in immediate danger, call 911.

For more mental health resources, see our National Helpline Database.

Symptoms of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder

Symptoms of ADHD include:

  • Difficulty with attention
  • Difficulty following instructions
  • Organizational challenges
  • Time management issues
  • Careless mistakes or missed details
  • Responding before the appropriate time to respond
  • The appearance of not listening
  • Avoidance of lengthy tasks or projects
  • Forgetfulness
  • Difficulty sitting still
  • Fidgeting
  • Restlessness
  • Being inappropriately active
  • Impulsivity
  • Excessive talking
  • Difficulty with quiet activities
  • Difficulty with patience and waiting
  • Inappropriately interrupting
  • Emotional regulation challenges

Overlapping Symptoms

The symptoms that overlap between BPD and ADHD are those related to impulsiveness, difficulty regulating emotions, and challenges with interpersonal interactions and relationships. BPD and ADHD may also be comorbid, which means they occur together in the same person at the same time. This may make it even more difficult to distinguish between the two, but there are differences in the way the overlapping symptoms present.

The Difference Between BPD and ADHD

While people with BPD and people with ADHD may both struggle with impulsiveness, difficulty regulating emotions, and challenges with interpersonal interactions and relationships, these symptoms tend to be more severe in BPD. For example, people with borderline personality disorder are more likely to harm themselves.

There are also differences in the ways people with BPD and people with ADHD struggle with these symptoms and how they respond to those struggles. For example, they are generally not impulsive in the same ways. People with BPD tend to struggle with responding appropriately while stressed. People with ADHD, on the other hand, struggle more with thinking before acting when they are not focused.

National Helpline

If you or a loved one are struggling with borderline personality disorder, contact the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) National Helpline at 1-800-662-4357 for information on support and treatment facilities in your area.

For more mental health resources, see our National Helpline Database.

Treatment

The primary treatment for borderline personality disorder is psychotherapy, or talk therapy. This can be challenging with comorbid BPD and ADHD because people with ADHD often struggle to stay focused for talk therapy. A combination of medication and psychotherapy is often used to treat both together.

Medications

When BPD and ADHD are present together, a combination of medication and psychotherapy is often used for treatment. Stimulant medications such as methylphenidate (MPH) are often a first-line treatment for ADHD. One study found MPH effective in treatment of comorbid (co-occurring) ADHD and BPD. However, there is limited research about medicinal treatments for comorbid ADHD and BPD.

Psychotherapy

For talk therapy, there are several psychotherapies for BPD. These include dialectical behavioral therapy, or DBT, transference-focused psychotherapy (TFP), and mentalization-based therapy (MBT). Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), psychoeducation, and DBT are used for both conditions. In addition to medications and talk therapy, coaching is also an option to focus on behaviors related to ADHD. Family therapy and parenting skills training may be used with children who have ADHD and their families.

Summary

Borderline personality disorder, or BPD, and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, or ADHD, are both mental health conditions. Although they are different, they do have some overlapping symptoms and may occur together in the same person at the same time.

People with ADHD and people with BPD both struggle with impulsiveness, difficulty regulating emotions, and challenges with interpersonal interactions and relationships. However, the way they experience and respond to these struggles is different, and they tend to be more severe in BPD.

Though the relationship between BPD and ADHD makes it more difficult for them to be diagnosed and treated, there are treatment options available. People who suspect or have been diagnosed with BPD, ADHD, or both can effectively manage symptoms with the help of a mental health professional such as a psychologist or psychiatrist.

A Word From Verywell

It can be challenging to be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, and even more challenging if it is both. If you or someone you know has BPD or ADHD, or if it is suspected, support is available. Talk to your primary care or family doctor, or a psychologist or psychiatrist, about treatment and coping options. It is possible to manage symptoms and live well with these conditions.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • How can you tell the difference between BPD and ADHD?

    People with BPD and people with ADHD struggle to regulate their emotions and may be impulsive. With BPD, there is a struggle to respond appropriately while stressed, whereas with ADHD it is more of a struggle to think before acting. Also, people with BPD tend to have more extreme emotional regulation difficulties than people with ADHD.

  • What kind of therapy is needed for BPD and ADHD?

    Psychotherapy, or talk therapy, can help with both BPD and ADHD, either alone or along with medications. Cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT, is a type of talk therapy used with both conditions. Dialectical behavioral therapy, or DBT, may also be used with borderline personality disorder and ADHD. Family therapy and parenting skills training may be used with children who have ADHD and their families.

7 Sources
Verywell Health uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read our editorial process to learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.
  1. American Psychological Association. Borderline personality disorder.

  2. American Psychological Association. Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder.

  3. Weiner L, Perroud N, Weibel S. Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder and borderline personality disorder in adults: a review of their links and risksNeuropsychiatr Dis Treat. 2019;15:3115-3129. doi:10.2147/NDT.S192871

  4. Ditrich I, Philipsen A, Matthies S. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (Adhd) revisited – a review-update on common grounds and subtle distinctionsBorderline Personality Disorder and Emotion Dysregulation. 2021;8(1):22. doi:10.1186/s40479-021-00162-w

  5. National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder. Treating BPD.

  6. Matthies SD, Philipsen A. Common ground in attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and borderline personality disorder (BPD)–review of recent findingsBorderline Personality Disorder and Emotion Dysregulation. 2014;1(1):3. doi:10.1186/2051-6673-1-3

  7. National Institute of Mental Health. Borderline personality disorder.

By Ashley Olivine, Ph.D., MPH
Dr. Ashley Olivine is a health psychologist and public health professional with over a decade of experience serving clients in the clinical setting and private practice. She has also researched a wide variety psychology and public health topics such as the management of health risk factors, chronic illness, maternal and child wellbeing, and child development.