Sharing Your Diagnosis How to Tell Someone You Have Cancer Deciding to Share Common Conversation Issues By Colleen Doherty, MD Colleen Doherty, MD Colleen Doherty, MD, is a board-certified internist living with multiple sclerosis. Learn about our editorial process Updated on May 07, 2020 Medically reviewed Verywell Health articles are reviewed by board-certified physicians and healthcare professionals. Medical Reviewers confirm the content is thorough and accurate, reflecting the latest evidence-based research. Content is reviewed before publication and upon substantial updates. Learn more. by Steven Gans, MD Medically reviewed by Steven Gans, MD Steven Gans, MD, is board-certified in psychiatry and is an active supervisor, teacher, and mentor at Massachusetts General Hospital. Learn about our Medical Review Board Our Conversation Coach Can Help Being diagnosed with cancer is an overwhelming experience, so it’s normal to be bombarded with a multitude of emotions—sadness, fear, and anxiety—all at the same time. As you process your diagnosis and the emotions that go along with it, the thought of then deciding to share it with others can seem like simply too much. Try to be at ease though. While sharing your diagnosis can be difficult and a bit messy, most people feel better after doing it. In addition, the care and support you will almost always receive in return will help carry you through your cancer journey. To give you the tools and guidance you need to effectively and smoothly share your diagnosis, our Conversation Coach will simulate a real chat—either with a loved one like a partner or best friend, or a different person like a less close friend or work colleague. At the end of the chat, you'll also find a downloadable vocabulary guide that will help you define cancer-related terms in simple ways, as well as tips for overcoming common conversation issues like unpleasant reactions, probing questions, and more. Note: The themes and guidance in the conversation below can be helpful in sharing most kinds of cancer diagnoses. Was this page helpful? Thanks for your feedback! Limiting processed foods and red meats can help ward off cancer risk. These recipes focus on antioxidant-rich foods to better protect you and your loved ones. Sign up and get your guide! Sign Up You're in! Thank you, {{form.email}}, for signing up. There was an error. Please try again. What are your concerns? Other Inaccurate Hard to Understand Submit